I recently went to the Victoria's Secret Semi-Annual Sale, which has long been a national holiday in the kingdom of Kim. I've been going to the sale every single year since... well... since I've even been able to wear bras. I know (from various click bait I've read online) that VS bras are not necessarily the strongest or most indestructible, but other brands' bras have quickly broken on me in the past, leaving me distraught and droopy, while my VS bras have lasted for at least a year (sometimes longer).
Because my bosom is on the larger side, I need to be able to try on the bras in person before purchasing. VS has always been there for me, like a reliable friend you see only twice a year but you know deep down nothing has changed. The relationship has always remained the same.
I used to be a 36DD (which was their biggest size, cup-wise). As I'm writing this, I'm currently wearing an old bra that has 36DD written on the label. Upon entering the battle ground that is the Semi-Annual Sale, one of the sales clerks offered to measure me just to be sure. It turns out I'm now a 36DDD, which sounds nice in theory — especially in a society that wrongly teaches us to value women based on their likeness to a plastic doll's proportions — but try finding anything relatively cute yet supportive in that size.
Victoria's Secret only recently extended their line to include DDD (which means many, many women still cannot shop there). I had planned for this sale. I went on the second day. I went to a location in Queens (away from the hustle and bustle in Manhattan). Yet there were only two bras in the whole store in that size, only one of which didn't resemble a potato sack. Luckily, the non-potato-sack-one fit me. But only that one.
When the sales clerk asked me how the bras fit after my trip into the dressing room (because I was in denial and still tried on 29,178,119 DDs), I sighed. She informed me that they had many styles in my size for full-price — which kind of misses the point. If a 28A has a kabillion bra options for $14, I want the same privilege. #brafairnessforall
Oh Victoria's Secret. We've had some good times, we've had some bad times. But it's not me. It's you.
In the grand scheme of things, this is such a tiny speck of a nothing event. To be honest, I almost decided not to write this article because everything feels like fluff in the wake of this week's tragic news. But as a woman who has been sized out of a popular store that has helped to define what is sexy for our generation, I wanted to put my small experience out there so those who have had similar experiences can relate and feel less alone. (And because I'm still trying to even comprehend and process what has happened this week, I'm writing about bras.)
At the moment, I can only affect change through the choices I make and the causes I support. And I'm deciding to slowly ease up on a business that doesn't cater to or seemingly respect people of my body type.
For a store that markets based on the curviness of women, they don't really support curvy women whatsoever.
- Can you find your bra size at mainstream lingerie stores?
- Do you think Victoria's Secret should carry a wider range of sizes?
- If you have any recommendations on where I should shop for bras, it would be greatly appreciated!